Are you thinking of filing for divorce? Had it with your spouse? Before you pull the trigger, so to speak, and file for divorce, do some investigating and some collecting. You’ll be glad you did. Specifically:
- Gather copies of financial documents, such as tax returns (at least the past three years), bank statements (go back several months to a year), investment accounts, and business records. Print them out in case you lose access.
- Keep the copies in a secure location away from your home. Try a friend or relative’s home or your workplace.
- Secure and possessions you’d be heartbroken to lose, especially anything breakable or very valuable. If your spouse “loses” your father’s antique watch, it’ll be up to you to prove it was your spouse’s fault.
- Learn your rights. Listening to your friends, relatives and neighbors about what happened in their divorce will not help you one little bit as each divorce is individual to the circumstances of the couple. Consult with a licensed lawyer or Family Law Coach in your area, and don’t feel pressured to hire someone at this point. Do some fact-finding. Read some books on divorce in your area.
- Learn your responsibilities. Just as critical as rights, what you have to do as a member of a divorcing couple, and perhaps a parent, is as critical. You don’t want to damage your children, your future, or your credit by not understanding what’s best for you to do.
- Consider counseling, like now. Divorce is so difficult that it’s considered one of the five major life events/traumas. The legal process is not designed to help you through the emotional aspects, and it won’t. It will likely make them worse. Find a counselor, find a divorce support group, talk to your church, or discover some way to deal with the emotional aspects.
- Learn the process. Divorce, as I have mentioned before, takes far longer and is far more expensive then you ever anticipate. If you’re not aware of this at the outset, then the delays, disappointments and cost can become quickly and repeatedly overwhelming.
- Open your own bank account, without your spouse’s name on it. Just before you file, if you have money in a savings account, consider transferring HALF of the money – just half – into that account. Check with a lawyer in your area first, however, to make sure you don’t get in trouble later for doing this, as every state has different rules.
The more prepared you are in advance, the easier the process will be. Divorce is so difficult that it’s well worth your time and effort to make it easier, because when you’re going through it, you’ll appreciate each and every break you can manage. And you could end up like this couple, whose divorce “rehearsal” actually saved their marriage. Ready for more information? Make an appointment online by clicking here.