In a prior post, we talked about how we can change the parenting plan post-divorce or –Judgment. What we didn’t talk about is when it is imperative that we do so. All too often I have someone in my office or calling me who needs help immediately – if not yesterday or last week or month. Don’t wait too long in a potential emergency, or you could end up in a very difficult spot. Here are some emergencies that require immediate action:
- Move away: when one parent is planning on moving to another location, and this move could be just to another school district, if you want to stop it (and you can), you need to act as soon as you know the move is happening. If you don’t, then this can be seen as consent to the move away. Especially when the other parent has made plans for school, a new house, etc., it can be difficult to stop the move unless you act quickly.
- Substance abuse: if you suspect or you know that your ex is abusing substances, such as alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, methamphetamines, or other illegal drugs, then you need to get back into court to protect your children. Particularly if there has been legal action, such as a DUI or other arrest, you should file a motion as soon as possible to ensure your children are not harmed.
- School changes/issues: if your child is having trouble in school or you want to change your child’s school, then you should try to get this before the court as soon as you can. With the delay in the Bay Area courts – sometimes 6 weeks or more to get into an Alameda County courtroom – you can’t wait until July to make a change in the school situation.
- Domestic violence: If you or your ex is being abused, get back into court as soon as possible to remove your children from the situation before they are harmed. Domestic violence is a serious issue that should never be ignored.
Of course, this all assumes that the other parent will not cooperate with the change you want. Start there, and if you cannot accomplish a change on your own, then you may need to go to court. A Family Law Coach can help! See the links at the top.